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Bedside Manner

Posted by on 26 October 2012

I don’t know what the last update was on my weight loss.  My original surgeon changed duty stations and I ended up with this great replacement.  He was taking such awesome care of me.  He was working with me on the weight loss and trying to fix my UTI.    Then I found out at my August appointment that he was leaving the very beginning of September.  That left me with all these crazy emotions and fear of what my new temporary doc would be like (because my doc is returning after his deployment is over).

That brings us to my September appointment.  I arrive at my appointment to find that my doc has been detained in surgery and I need to come back about 2 hours later.  I go do some grocery shopping and return as told.  I’m the first one back and I’m checked in.  I wait close to an hour when another lady shows up and just as the doc returns from surgery, another man shows up.  We’re all called back at the same time and I wait in my room a good hour more.  I can hear the doc in the room next to me with the man that showed up last, fully knowing that my appointment time was before his.  It’s on a Wednesday, so I tell the nurse that I have to leave.  We’re talking already very late in the afternoon and I still have to get ready for my religion class.  I go to the front desk and schedule my October appointment and she can’t believe that I wasn’t seen yet.

Finally, we’re at my October appointment yesterday.  I’m there my 15 minutes prior, which is required to be seen.  If you’re not, they can and will cancel your appointment.  I waited about 45 minutes past my appointment time to be seen.  I was weighed and put in my room.  I waited some more.  The doc walks in and asks how I’m doing and I tell her “great”.  She says “oh really, well you didn’t lose much weight”.  Now mind you, she’s well over an hour late for my appointment by this time.  She informs me that I’d lost 2 lbs. since last month and that she’d discussed it with the OCS student with her.  I’m wondering why she’s discussed this with him before even seeing me and why she’s judging me without so much as talking to me.  This was my introduction to this doc…..missed my appointment last month and late to this one!!

This lady starts telling me that I haven’t lost enough weight and I inform her that it’s about the norm for me and my other doc hasn’t been worried about it in the least and that it’s been slow and steady.  I tell her that my activity and weight loss are keeping up with each other and I don’t have any huge pockets of hanging skin, of which I’m proud.  Her reply was, “let me tell you, we all get sagging skin as we get older”.  Then she shows me this chart that she drew on my medical records to show the OCS student how I’m not losing enough weight and in her exact words to me, “you’re not going to succeed and you’re eventually going to put it all back on”.

Can you imagine!?!?  What if I wasn’t as strong as I am??  What if I was having serious issues??  You can’t just talk to ANY patient that way, but especially a weight loss patient.  She’s a total freak!!  I don’t even want to discuss what a disaster my fill was.  Let’s just say that it hurt worse than any I’ve had so far and if I have may way, she’ll not do another one!! 

I just want to know who these docs think they are.  They have no right to talk to anyone that way….ever!!  Thank goodness for my supportive family and my own personal strength.  She really could have gotten in my mind and caused me to fail with words like that.  I intend to prove her wrong and rub her freak face all in it!!  What a crazy witch!!

By the way, to date, I’ve lost almost 50 lbs. now.  I’m down a full 6 sizes in clothes.  Yes, it’s been slow, but it’s also been steady.  I hit a plateau early and I’m losing again.  Surgery or not, everyone will hit a plateau.  It’s the nature of the body.  She didn’t even bother to find out that I’ve had a hysterectomy and I do NOT take hormones.  And yes, that does slow the weight loss down.  DUH!!  So I’m proud of me and I can see such huge changes and so can everyone else….all for the better.

My recommendation is that she goes back to school and learns some bedside manner and stays far away from weight loss patience!!



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One Response to Bedside Manner

  1. Bethanne

    Oh wow. that is sooo unbelievable, yet…believable! I had a doctor tell me [after I already had four kids] that she didn’t think anyone should have more than 2 kids. This was when I was asking her about my diabetes… her answer didn’t even address diabetes! Just her small-minded opinion that people could not take care of more than two kids [those were her words!]. I left and never went back. Thank you very much. 😀

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