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Lessons from Motherhood

Posted by on 6 September 2008

Laura has tagged me again.  This time, I can say it’s a fairly easy task.  I get to discuss one of the things I love most….being a mom.  Here’s the details:

What to do: share with us and your readers a lesson that you learned from your own mom, a special mom in your life, or while raising your own children. There’s no right or wrong answer ….just lessons that each of us can learn and implement with our own children. Link your post back to this one, leave a comment below so we can visit and learn from you, and then tag 2-3 other moms to participate.

What I’m going to discuss, my mom had to practice with me and I’m having to practice with K.  It takes time, patience and understanding.  Mostly, it takes remembering that we’re all different.  My mom is very much a woman and loves to do womanly things.  When I was a kid, I was pure tomboy.  It was really hard for my mom to keep me in the house on the weekends to help her clean, do laundry and all the other chores she had to do after working all week.  I would rather have been outside with my dad mowing the grass, working on his truck or some other male activity.  I loved to get dirty and drive my cars through the mud and dirt.  I did eventually learn all the things that every woman should know how to do.  Yes, I’m old fashioned enough to think that women belong at home.  Before you get irate, I don’t mean barefoot and preggo type thinking.  My mother worked pretty much all my life.  I mean that every woman should know the basic duties of every woman….cooking, cleaning, laundry and so on.

So, that brings us to now.  I have my own daughter.  She’s very much my mini-me.  However, she’s as girlie as they come.  She’s downright prissy sometimes.  I’ve been known to call her a diva.  She has to have shoes that match and frills and nice hair and so on.  Part of that is on me.  From very early on, I knew she’d be my only one and I wanted the best for her.  Not spoiled mind you, but the best love there was.  As she’s grown, this has become a major frustration for me.  She won’t get her hands dirty at all.  Forget the good old fashioned mud pies.  She will play with cars, but that’s the extent of it and not in the dirt!!  She’ll test my patience at every turn.  She wants to do some things that are still of no interest to me.  I never really have cried, but she will at the drop of a hat.  That’s where the diva/drama queen part comes in.  I’ll scream at her I just can’t relate to her and tell her she’s driving me nuts.  Then I’ll turn around and hug her until she feels nothing else but that hug.  It’s really hard having a girl that’s all girl.  She has emotions and feelings that I can honestly say that I’ve never had.  Entering puberty, her hormones are raging.  I barely noticed.  I’d be outside wrestling with the neighbor boys, having snowball fights and other various tomboy games!!  Knowing that I moved on with my life and didn’t let girl things bother me sends me to the edge sometimes with her.  

I’m sure my mom had to do it with me and I know I have to do it with K.  I just say over and over “no matter how much alike we are, she’s NOT me”.  That’s hard, but it keeps me focused and based around her.  She’s such a great kid and she’ll take her butt chewings.  She’ll still turn around and tell me she loves me.  The people that say you shouldn’t discipline are wrong, no matter what they say.  I see the proof of that in her all the time.  We keep our routine and we’re consistent.  Everything revolves around love and not spoiling.  Even when she’s a girl and I’m still a tomboy.  It’s all about the love and relating that to how to handle the situation.  Homeschooling has brought this to a whole new level!!

So that’s my “Lesson from Motherhood”.  Now I’m supposed to tag a couple people for them to tell one of their stories.  I’m going to give the task of motherhood lessons to:

1.  Dawn at Dawn’s Diversions because I know she loves being a mom

2.  Shawna and Debbie at Mommie Mayhem because they deal with motherhood one funny day at a time

3.  Lori at A Cowboy’s Wife because she has to deal with being the only woman in a house of men/boys   

4.  Angie at Seven Clown Circus because she’s got a house full and still laughs, blogs and keeps on going

I could have picked so many other mom’s.  I know so many good ones….no, great ones.  I wanted a variety though.  I want to find out more about each of them and this is a great way to do it.  If your name isn’t here, it’s not because I didn’t want it to be.  So now you have your homework.  Get to it and let me know when you share your post!! 

18 Responses to Lessons from Motherhood

  1. angie

    This is such a great story and idea. I really like your thoughts on individuality. It is so difficult sometimes for me to seperate what me kids would like, and what I would like. Thank you for thinking of me…..AND, I will get to this.

  2. Dawn

    Oh, yours was great! I hope I do as well! Thanks for choosing me. I’ll have to do it Sunday afternoon as we have company until then.

    Your daughter is so blessed to have such an awesome mom!

  3. Elaine

    my mom taught me that being a bitch is sometimes all a woman has to hang on to…. no wait, that’s a line from ‘Delores Claiborne’ :)

  4. Elaine

    angie, I can’t wait to read yours!! Thanks….this is the one I struggle with the most. I’m glad it’s something you can relate to and understand.

  5. Elaine

    Dawn, I’m so glad that you liked mine. I feel like I’m the blessed one. K loves me through thick and thin and shares everything with me.

    I can’t wait to read yours!! Don’t worry, there’s no hurry on it. It took me a couple days to get to mine too!!

  6. Elaine

    i went to that vote for your blog link, and tried to vote but it said you had to sign up, i have a book 3 inches thick with logins and passwords, i don’t ‘sign up’ unless i absolutely have to lol so sorry, you know i vote for your blog in my heart :) thanks for the song lovin’ hehe

  7. Elaine

    LOL Although that’s sometimes true Elaine, I’m still going to have to whoop up on you!! You’re just so terrible!!

  8. Elaine

    You know Elaine, I’ve had issues with that myself lately. It’s supposed to do like a feed so that your latest blog post can be voted one. Everytime I log in, it has my same post from ages and ages ago. I asked for help and received none. I might removed the vote button and their button from my “click” page.

    I have my passwords in a book too. I freak people out when they realize how many I actually have memorized though!! LOL

  9. Debbie

    Good lesson! My twins are exact opposites. One is a tomboy and the other is girlie girlie. I’ve been working on the tomboy the past couple of years. She finally conceded to a skirt with leggings for school. LOL I’ve always seen them as individuals though and never put much emphasis on the twin factor. Some people go overboard with dressing alike for years and having them do everything together. I never wanted to do that.

  10. Tammy Warren

    I agree…I am old fashioned also. Being at home is where I love to be.

  11. Laura

    Lovely response. You did good! You go girl! :)

  12. Tammy Warren

    You are a awesome mom. Raising a teen girl can be difficult. I raised my niece for many years. I miss her so much. She was picked on a great deal but it made her a stronger person. The hormone issue is a biggie. Children just don’t get outside as much anymore to let off some steam. Times have changed. I am trying so very hard to adapt to this. Recently, I have “made” my children get outside. Even my 13 year old. It seems to put them in a better mood. And we all know what that means….ME! I am in a better mood. Don’t mess with MOM.

  13. Elaine

    Debbie, I’m sure it’s so hard with twins. I don’t like seeing them always dressed the same and everything. They are their own people.

    It’s something that I have to work on hard with kiddo. She’ll freak at the slightest thing sometimes and I’ll look at her like she’s a nut!! LOL

  14. Elaine

    Thanks Laura!! I tried to have it done sooner, but life kept happening. I think I’m there now!! LOL

  15. Elaine

    Old fashioned is good, Tammy!! I don’t know if I’m awesome, but I love her. She knows it too. I don’t get many parents now and kids. I was picked on too, but at much older age. We were well into our teens. My daughter has been picked on since 2nd grade. Everyone tells her she’s “different”. How I don’t know….she’s honestly just a typical kid. It’s one reason we homeschool. I don’t want to protect her from the world, but treatment by others effects school and everything else. Nothing gets done about it, so I did what’s best for us!!

  16. Dawn

    Okay, Elaine, I have mine up now!! Thanks for tagging me. :)

  17. Elaine

    Awesome Dawn!! I’m going over there to check it out. I’m sure yours is a great post!!

  18. Debbie

    This is great . I’m still writing mine.

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