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I’ve been thinking about doing this topic for awhile, but didn’t know if I should. I figured it might cause too much blog contraversy. Goodness knows there’s enough of that in life without the blog world too. Then today, I noticed a visitor to my site and as I always do, I went to check out their blog. The second post on the page was about role models.
This person stated that they thought that Michelle Obama was a great role model. That the speech she delivered was something that every girl should want to achieve. That’s not the exact words, but that’s just the basics. They also said that Hillary Clinton was somebody girls should admire too. That she too was a role model.
I left a comment, basically disagreeing. I was totally polite and not disrespectful at all. I said that it takes more than a speech to make a good role model. I said as long as we’re talking about Hillary, let’s also talk about Bill. He made great speeches and made people believe in him. Let’s face it, no matter our views, we know how that ended. He’s not the greatest role model for anyone. I restated that it takes more than good speeches to be a role model. My final comment was “actions speak louder than words”. I had to leave for a meeting, so when I got home, I went back to that blog to check out some of their other posts. I thought perhaps that they’d be interesting. Much to my surprise, my comment had been removed. Yes, removed because I didn’t agree with their view. What other reason could there be?? I can assure you once again, I wasn’t rude in the least bit. So why remove it?? If you don’t want comments or to know what others say, don’t post the blog.
This has NOTHING to do with politics (or any other reason other than MY opinion). Maybe they thought it did because the final statements of this particular blog entry said that we all needed to vote for Obama because he represents what we need to be. He has strong beliefs and so on. I restate, this has NOTHING to do with MY political view. Fact be known, I still don’t know who I’m going to vote for and frankly, that’s nobodies business. However, I will vote!!
My whole point is just because someone makes a speech doesn’t mean they’re a role model. Sure, Mrs. Obama has a great job and has 2 kids (and she does have good qualities and is a strong woman). Yes, Hillary is a Senator and she’s had a career as a lawyer. Nobody and I mean nobody can deny that Hillary is also corrupt and that’s how she got to be the lawyer she was. That’s why things about the Clinton’s keep getting buried. Things they never want us to know. I’m sorry, but that’s just not the role model I want for my daughter. Period!!
Another blog I visit asked us who we thought were good mothers. Some said Angelina Jolie. Some said Jennifer Garner and so on. My comment was that my daughter loves Faith Hill. I have no issue with my daughter being in love with this woman as a performer. Miss K totally respects her and wants everything Faith. Do I care?? NO!! Why?? Because she shows me that she cares about her family, career and life. I don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, but I haven’t heard a bad thing yet. She doesn’t just make speeches that look good, she actually lives it. Her girls go where she goes. She goes with her man goes as much as she possibly can. My daughter does NOT like Hannah Montana or High School Musical or any of those other fad shows, stars or whatever you want to call them. She doesn’t like Lindsay Lohan or Brittany. This thrills me to no end!! I have no respect for any of them. None of them have done anything with their lives except to be spoiled and want to be followed and idolized. Back to Faith….she donates money and does charity work on a regular basis. That’s what I want my daughter to see.
So is Faith the perfect role model for Miss K?? No, I don’t think so. I’d just assume that her grandmother was her role model or her great grandmother. I’d love it if I was her role model. I might not have some successful career, but then again, I have. I’ve devoted myself to raising her and loving her with all I have. I’ve followed her dad all over this country, often at the expense of my health in the long run. I’m far from perfect. I told her tonight I found an area I need to work on and inprove and that’ll require alot more prayer on my part. I hold a grudge. That’s never good. I need to fix that. I’m not conceited at all, but I do think I’m a good role model. I believe in what I do. I don’t make speeches and put myself in the limelight. Neither has my mother. I have friends that do have careers and family and I think they’d be a good role model.
Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe I’m not. I stand by my comment that Michelle or Hillary aren’t the role model I want for my daughter. Are they horrible people?? No!! Just not what I consider to be the best choice in that department. I want K to be everything that she can be. She has goals and dreams and with everything I am, I want her to fulfill them. I had a dream too, but it didn’t happen. However, the day she was born, I came to realize that in a way I did get my dream. I became her teacher. Now, I really am her teacher. God has a plan for us. I don’t know what his plan is for her. What I do know is that I want as many positive influences as possible. Life isn’t a bed of roses and each day, we have to deal with the thorns. I don’t try to paint this perfect picture. I’d just like for her to know that there’s many materials and factors in the making of the picture.
Please feel to comment, whether you agree or disagree. I’d just like to remind you that this isn’t (and never was for me) a political debate. It’s just my views. Please, if you comment, be respectful of me and any other comments.
So, who’s was your role model?? Who’s a role model for your kids??