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Role Models

Posted by on 28 August 2008

Please read this entire post before you comment.  And, please don’t leave before you read the whole thing (hopefully with an open mind).

I’ve been thinking about doing this topic for awhile, but didn’t know if I should.  I figured it might cause too much blog contraversy.  Goodness knows there’s enough of that in life without the blog world too.  Then today, I noticed a visitor to my site and as I always do, I went to check out their blog.  The second post on the page was about role models.

This person stated that they thought that Michelle Obama was a great role model.  That the speech she delivered was something that every girl should want to achieve.  That’s not the exact words, but that’s just the basics.  They also said that Hillary Clinton was somebody girls should admire too.  That she too was a role model.

I left a comment, basically disagreeing.  I was totally polite and not disrespectful at all.  I said that it takes more than a speech to make a good role model.  I said as long as we’re talking about Hillary, let’s also talk about Bill.  He made great speeches and made people believe in him.  Let’s face it, no matter our views, we know how that ended.  He’s not the greatest role model for anyone.  I restated that it takes more than good speeches to be a role model.  My final comment was “actions speak louder than words”.  I had to leave for a meeting, so when I got home, I went back to that blog to check out some of their other posts.  I thought perhaps that they’d be interesting.  Much to my surprise, my comment had been removed.  Yes, removed because I didn’t agree with their view.  What other reason could there be??  I can assure you once again, I wasn’t rude in the least bit.  So why remove it??  If you don’t want comments or to know what others say, don’t post the blog.

This has NOTHING to do with politics (or any other reason other than MY opinion).  Maybe they thought it did because the final statements of this particular blog entry said that we all needed to vote for Obama because he represents what we need to be.  He has strong beliefs and so on.  I restate, this has NOTHING to do with MY political view.  Fact be known, I still don’t know who I’m going to vote for and frankly, that’s nobodies business.  However, I will vote!!

My whole point is just because someone makes a speech doesn’t mean they’re a role model.  Sure, Mrs. Obama has a great job and has 2 kids (and she does have good qualities and is a strong woman).  Yes, Hillary is a Senator and she’s had a career as a lawyer.  Nobody and I mean nobody can deny that Hillary is also corrupt and that’s how she got to be the lawyer she was.  That’s why things about the Clinton’s keep getting buried.  Things they never want us to know.  I’m sorry, but that’s just not the role model I want for my daughter.  Period!!

Another blog I visit asked us who we thought were good mothers.  Some said Angelina Jolie.  Some said Jennifer Garner and so on.  My comment was that my daughter loves Faith Hill.  I have no issue with my daughter being in love with this woman as a performer.  Miss K totally respects her and wants everything Faith.  Do I care??  NO!!  Why??  Because she shows me that she cares about her family, career and life.  I don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, but I haven’t heard a bad thing yet.  She doesn’t just make speeches that look good, she actually lives it.  Her girls go where she goes.  She goes with her man goes as much as she possibly can.  My daughter does NOT like Hannah Montana or High School Musical or any of those other fad shows, stars or whatever you want to call them.  She doesn’t like Lindsay Lohan or Brittany.  This thrills me to no end!!  I have no respect for any of them.  None of them have done anything with their lives except to be spoiled and want to be followed and idolized.  Back to Faith….she donates money and does charity work on a regular basis.  That’s what I want my daughter to see. 

So is Faith the perfect role model for Miss K??  No, I don’t think so.  I’d just assume that her grandmother was her role model or her great grandmother.  I’d love it if I was her role model.  I might not have some successful career, but then again, I have.  I’ve devoted myself to raising her and loving her with all I have.  I’ve followed her dad all over this country, often at the expense of my health in the long run.  I’m far from perfect.  I told her tonight I found an area I need to work on and inprove and that’ll require alot more prayer on my part.  I hold a grudge.  That’s never good.  I need to fix that.  I’m not conceited at all, but I do think I’m a good role model.  I believe in what I do.  I don’t make speeches and put myself in the limelight.  Neither has my mother.  I have friends that do have careers and family and I think they’d be a good role model. 

Maybe I’m wrong.  Maybe I’m not.  I stand by my comment that Michelle or Hillary aren’t the role model I want for my daughter.  Are they horrible people??  No!!  Just not what I consider to be the best choice in that department.  I want K to be everything that she can be.  She has goals and dreams and with everything I am, I want her to fulfill them.  I had a dream too, but it didn’t happen.  However, the day she was born, I came to realize that in a way I did get my dream.  I became her teacher.  Now, I really am her teacher.  God has a plan for us.  I don’t know what his plan is for her.  What I do know is that I want as many positive influences as possible.  Life isn’t a bed of roses and each day, we have to deal with the thorns.  I don’t try to paint this perfect picture.  I’d just like for her to know that there’s many materials and factors in the making of the picture.

Please feel to comment, whether you agree or disagree.  I’d just like to remind you that this isn’t (and never was for me) a political debate.  It’s just my views.  Please, if you comment, be respectful of me and any other comments.

So, who’s was your role model??  Who’s a role model for your kids??

18 Responses to Role Models

  1. Laura

    We all have the right to our opinions. 🙂 And yes, I think hot sauce on meatloaf is fantastic!

  2. Elaine

    Indeed we do!! LOL But EW to hot sauce on meat loaf. That’s just because I don’t like hot sauce on….well, anything!!

  3. Laura

    I put hot sauce on EVERYTHING! Even pizza, rice, eggs, popcorn, etc. I guess the ONLY thing I do not put hot sauce on is ice cream. 🙂

  4. Elaine

    I know people that like hot sauce on lots of things, but I think you’re a first for everything!! LOL I’ve never been one for hot sauce, but then again now that I think about it, my parents don’t use it either. Not that we don’t do spicy, just no hot sauce. On the other hand, hubby loves it on his eggs. BLAH

  5. Tammy Warren

    I don’t like meatloaf….but I like hot sauce. See there is always a common ground in the middle.

    By the way, I love Faith Hill. I know I only see her through the eyes of the media. She seems happy. She loves her children. She is a good example to others being a star that she is. She has one more sexy husband but is confident enough to handle it. She just appears to be a strong beautiful woman. I remember telling my oldest son once…you find a woman like that.

  6. Elaine

    I love meatloaf!! See, we can all get together. I’ll have meatloaf, Laura will have meatloaf with hot sauce and Tammy will have hot sauce!! Anyone want to join us??

    I agree with all you said, Tammy!! It is the medias eye, but I don’t mind what I see. It’s not that Michelle or Hillary or horrible people (I think I stated that), there’s just things I don’t see as role model material. Opinions!!

    He could do worse than to marry someone like her!!

  7. mom2my9

    I completely agree with you on this post. There are so many “stars” out there who are so lacking in morals and it is a shame to see so many of them idolized. Good for you for writing this post. I also want to tell you how much I love your Bookshelf! Awesome!
    P.S. Have you started with the home schooling? Good luck!

  8. Elaine

    Thank you, mom2my9. I’m glad I posted it, but I’m sure it will upset a few, unless they read the whole thing and are open minded. I’m happy that you enjoyed the post.

    I’m proud to display the Bookshelf. I hope that you visit Tammy’s blog who presented several of us with that special award.

    Yes, we’ve started homeschooling. It’s actually going so smooth, there’s not much to blog!! LOL

  9. Debbie

    Start over Debbie. I went off on a rant. No she is not a good role model, she doesn’t even have any patriotism for Pete’s sake, nor does her husband. I’ll not say anything else but you see what side of the fence I’m on.

    Don’t bother to write a post if you can’t take the good and bad comments. Stick to non-controversial topics. That’s my opinion on the matter.

  10. Elaine

    LOL Well, as I said, it’s not political. I understand wanting to rant. That wouldn’t accomplish much for me on the blog because my point would be lost. And the point was 1) role models and 2) opinions. Both of which are a personal preference. Especially when it’s done respectfully. UGH Anyway, I understand where you’re coming from and I understand.

  11. Debbie

    I sounded really witchy above, didn’t I? **scrunching my nose** I hate politics! Brings out the worst in me.

    I probably should have put “A person shouldn’t bother writing a post…”. Hope you didn’t think I was directing that comment at you.

  12. Elaine

    Oh no Debbie, I knew it wasn’t about me. I can relate to what you said. I’m the one who had a comment removed from a blog because they didn’t agree!! LOL You weren’t too witchy….you controlled it. No harm, no foul!! Now quit worrying!!

  13. Elaine

    gee, i don’t think i’ve ever had a role model… no i had einstein as a kid when i was a physics freak… now i guess i would have to say my role model is my Christian mentor, he and God have dragged me out of a baaad place… liked your post, no reason to worry about it i don’t think..

  14. Elaine

    Thank you Elaine. I’d say you have a pretty good role model then. You can always use me too!! {wink} But really, I’m happy for you if you’ve found a good place and are happy. Good for you!!

  15. honeywine

    I don’t think role models should be emphasized for kids. I think it’s better to teach them that people are human and have faults. Teach them the ideals of human behavior instead. The truth is that unless someone is dead there’s a chance they’ll turn out to be the person you didn’t want your kid to idolize.

  16. Elaine

    My daughter is very aware of human faults. I teach a religion class and she’s always been enrolled in one as well as lessons at home. It is a very important thing to know, which is a good thing that you point out.

    I don’t think they have to be dead though. Not everyone is a disappointment. Even people who make mistakes can be role models. It’s part of forgiving and being human.

    Good points you bring up, honeywine. Thanks for sharing your views and visiting my blog!!

  17. Maricris

    I totally don’t disagree with you. We all have our own views in life and how we see things and we have all the right to express it as we deem see fit. Unfortunately, a lot of people are critical about other people’s view especially when it doesn’t resonate with their own views. I call them the “listeners with deaf ears” . Their ears are so muffled by their own opinion, they couldn’t hear anything else but themselves. Case dismissed. No role model either although if I can vote right now, I probably will vote for who is capable in fixing the previous regime’s messes!

  18. Elaine

    Thank you Maricris for the way you stated that and visiting my blog. I’m a very opionionated person, but I’ll at least listen to what others have to say. You never know what else is out there unless you try!! I’ll be watching closely to see who will be able to do the most for us. There’s still alot to prove at this point.

    Thanks again for stopping by!!

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